Codependency.....

I said I was not going to blog about my therapies but this one has stuck out so much to me that Im not going to blog about how my therapy session went but rather something he told me about myself that I think many people in this world are and until this past week I did not realize the extent of how being codependent can take over your life and make you oblivious to the things that are going around in ones life because they are so self involved on the things they are trying to control they cant see the whole picture. First I would like to share what codependency is many people have heard the term yet arent quiet sure what it means....
Codependency- is a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively care taking ways that negatively impact one's relationships and quality of life. It also often involves putting one's needs at a lower priority than others while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.[1] Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including in families, at work, in friendships, and also in romantic, peer or community relationships.[1] Codependency may also be characterized by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance, and/or control patterns.[1]
Now with that being said, I will admit that I am a very codependent person and for the majority of my life I have been so self involved with everyone elses feelings and taking care of them that I didnt realize I need to take care of ME also. I am starting to read a book about being codependent and it has opened my eyes alot; case in point I was visiting my family this past week and I have found that almost every person in my family makes excuses for at least someone and when I tried to express my feelings to them it seemed to go no where therefore...I have no decided that as part of my healing process and getting over my childhood and the way I have lived in the past I have now decided that unless it is something considered as a dyer emergency and someone is hurt then I dont want to know about it. I love hearing about all the good things and those make me so very proud like my sister Courtney who is doing amazing(see different post for Vegas trip) however my other sister Chloe has chose some things in her life that I dont agree with so guess what....I dont care to know nor do I need to know what goes on unless it is positive :o) I am trying to improve my life not have things that hinder or bring me down.
Being codependent is something that will take a long time to cure and there are things that I hadnt even paid attention to until it was brought to my attention so I feel that I can become a stronger person and it will help me in life, work, relationships, and to be a better mommy! :o) Wish me luck lol